As promised, part 2 of the spin off from “Where Art Thou Thy Romeo”….
Truly speaking, women seem to be better cheaters than men, they are better at keeping their affairs under wraps and generally have an agenda for their infidelity. Some affairs occur because the cheating parties truly want to leave their established partner, particularly when they are married. However, very few married men leave their wife for their mistress! That is, unless their wife finds out and leaves.
The top 10 reasons why men have affairs include:
1. More sex ( sometimes due to lack of sex in their relationship )
2. Sexual variety through different partners or different sexual experiences.
3. To boost their egos in oredr to feel special or still attractive to the opposite sex
4. For the thrill of the chase
5. Opportunistic sex ( if the opportunity occurs, they cannot pass it up )
6. To sabotage their current relationship.
7. Revenge ( to get back at their partner for one reason or another ).
8. A feeling of entitlement ( the belief they are entitled because they work hard or are the bread winner )
9. Sexual addiction
10.To escape.
There is no such thing as a perfect affair. Keeping an on-going affair is a juggling act of covering up lies, explaining time away, and dealing with associated guilt feelings. The cheater becomes consumed by guilt and sometimes lashes out even more at their partner. If you are involved in an affair, respect yourself and your partner enough to get out.
As like before, please spare me the bashing because the above was obtained from the following link http://www.womansavers.com/Affair-reasons.asp
Statement like "Truly speaking, women seem to be better cheaters than men" was not made be me ( thank God )...kekekekeke....hahahaha..HAHAHAHAHAHA....aheemm...sorry!
2 every1 his/her OWN..........
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
Of Myths and Truths ( part 2 )
Tuesday, September 11, 2007
Of Myths and Truths ( part 1 )
Couldn't resist doing some research to facilitate this post which incidently is a spinoff from the previous one titled " Where Art Thou Thy Romeo". Below are seven Myths and Truths about "Women and extra marital affairs"....spare me the bashing because I promise to do another posting on men and extra marital affairs in due course ok? BTW, it just happens that my research "search" popped up with "women" first.
To my women readers ( Judy, Kat, Marsha, u-jean, etc ), please do not take any offence ok?
Myth #1: Sex is the primary reason wives pursue extramarital affairs.
Truth: Sex is usually not what motivates wives to have affairs. Often, sex is better at home. Some extramarital affairs do not actually involve much sex at all. More often, wives who take lovers are seeking empowerment, recognition, empathy, respect, and reciprocity from a partner and not just sex.
Myth #2: Wives who are having affairs break up old marriages and result in new marriages.
Truth: Rarely does a wife end up with her lover. More common is that her extramarital affair serves as a catalyst to work on the marriage and her role in it. If the husband is open to marital counseling, a marriage can end up stronger than before the wife’s affair.
Myth #3: Same-sex affairs don’t really count.
Truth: The act of infidelity pertains to the breaking of a trust, which is gender free. If you have to keep it hidden, chances are it’s a betrayal.
Myth #4: Husbands have more affairs than wives.
Truth: That was true for previous generations. But now that more women are working outside the home, the percentages are becoming more equal. More women are having extramarital affairs, and the gender gap on infidelity is closing.
Myth #5: It’s inescapable that, over time, sex and romance will fade in a marriage.
Truth: In marriage, there is always a danger of depending on one person for romance and love, which can unwittingly degrade romance. This is a common problem that underlies marital discontent but a preventable one. Couples who dare to, can learn to embrace ambiguity: both commitment and sexual desire, comfort and excitement, love and lust. Long-lasting romance and hot sex take work and practice.
Myth #6: Stay-at-home wives are less susceptible to the temptation of infidelity.
Truth: Women who choose to be moms and homemakers while their husbands go off to challenging work and fulfilling careers every day grapple with a number of issues that often lead to infidelity. Anger, resentment, and frustration at having lost their identity and autonomy are common emotional symptoms of the bored housewife who seeks excitement and empowerment from an extramarital affair.
Myth #7: Extramarital affairs are symptomatic mostly of younger women.
Truth: We used to associate affairs with young, restless wives. Not anymore. Older women are daring to have extramarital affairs in record numbers. More and more older women are also choosing younger lovers. By engaging is extramarital affairs, aging wives feel that they are defying the double discrimination of ageism and sexism.
Please feel free to visit the source at : http://www.nuvunow.ca/articles/selfhelp/affairs.html
2 every1 his/her OWN...........
Where Art Thou Thy Romeo?
Was listening to my favourite radio channel while driving to work today which was playing the usual genre of songs, a bit of chit chat between the deejays and what nots….what really caught my attention was the debate topic that was put up for listeners to call in with their views….it was titled “Affairs, should we or should we not let it happen”.
Within minutes, the station was bombarded with calls from listeners offering their views and advise on the said topic. As usual, there were comments that made sense, some nonsensical, some silly and some down right stooooopid which resulted in me turning off the radio after the first wave of comments.
Funny that this subject has been brought up because it reflects of a similar “happening” at my place of work ( site ).
The subject matters ( not me mind you ) are:
A person with a reputable back ground ( son of a somebody ), married and holding a respected and important position in this particular project
INVOLVED WITH
A well known “gatal”, still single former Miss From-God-Knows-Where-Hell-Hole, “itchy”ban bitch who is dragging his name in the mud type…kekekeke.
I must admit that it is very pitiful to see someone who has a lot going for him throwing everything into the toilet just because of some bitch, who has slept with more people than all our toes and fingers put together.
Sad to say that the “loving” couple has been a great source of jokes at my site for quite sometime now. Many a times my colleagues have stumbled across them doing “something” when barging into their office uninvited or after office hours….guess that’s the price one has to pay for entering without knocking first huh?
I admit that feelings will develop if one is constantly in contact with another frequently but this should be where our self control kick in right?
Personally I am against having affairs or one-night-stands or whatchamacalit thingy because the consequences are just not worth it. My advise to those sex craved/hungry buggers is not to get married if they don’t know how to keep their dicks in the pants OR to frequent a prostitute and get a case of clap and let their dicks drop off….
Anyway, it is easy for me to say all this because I have ALWAYS avoided getting myself into uncompromising situations….thus far….ending with the hope that I will ALWAYS avoid such situations…kekekekeke.
Whats your stand on "Affairs"?
2 every1 his/her OWN…………..
